Raised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive Child

The Hidden Dangers of Using Rewards to Motivate Children (& What You Can Do Instead!)

One of the earliest pieces of parenting advice I got was this: “You just have to find your child’s currency, and then ‘good’ behavior will follow.” And at the time, I thought it was decent advice; sticker charts and treats are pretty innocent, right? And rewards are better than punishments, aren’t they? Well, as it turns out, rewards aren’t as innocent as they seem.
 
In today’s episode, I dive into using rewards with our kids. Do rewards really work to change a child’s behavior? What are there risks associated with using rewards in parenting? And if you’re not going to use rewards to motivate your child, what can you do instead? I answer all of these questions and more in this week’s episode.
 
Here’s the thing: Rewards aren’t as harmless as they seem; they’re actually very similar to punishments, and in the long-term, they aren’t very effective. But the good news is that you can absolutely motivate your child in other, more organic ways (that don’t cost you anything and actually work long-term!). And after listening to today’s episode, you’ll know how to do that.
 
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Let’s Talk About “Mom Rage” / Parenting Rage: 4 Reasons You’re Losing It Constantly (& What You Can Do About It!)

“Mom rage”: We don’t really talk about it, do we? There’s so much shame in our society around anger in general – and parenting rage feels even more unspeakable. But even though it feels unspeakable, parenting rage is SO common, and you’re definitely not alone if you’ve experienced it!
 
In today’s episode, I unpack “mom rage” (including why we call it “mom rage” even though any parent can experience it). I break down what “mom rage” really is & share four of the most common reasons we get ragey in parenting & simple action items to address each root cause. This episode is for you if you’ve ever wondered: Why do we go through seasons where we’re losing our ish constantly? And what can we do to support ourselves and move away from rage and intense, frequent anger in parenting?
 
Here’s the thing: Rage in parenting is super common, and you’re still a good parent if you’re experiencing it. It’s not your fault, and you’re not alone. But you don’t have to stay in a place of feeling ragey / intensely angry all the time! You CAN feel better! I share four action items to help you move out of this place of constant parenting rage so that you can parent in a way that TRULY feels good. You’ve got this!
 
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Talking to Your Child About Death: How, When & What to Say to Broach This Difficult Topic

Talking to kids about death feels hard, doesn’t it? It’s a tough subject for us as adults. And we’re often talking about it while grieving a fresh loss, which makes it all the more challenging. Sometimes it feels so hard to broach this topic that we just don’t … until we have to.
 
In today’s episode, I empower you with everything you need to know to have a conversation about death with your child starting today, even if you’re not grieving a fresh loss. I share how to broach the topic, what to actually say (& what not to say!), and how to deal when you’re grieving & sad and simultaneously having to support your child through a tough loss. 
 
Here’s the thing: Death is a natural & inevitable part of life. When we approach it as such with our kids, we create space for them to integrate death as a concept into their world long before they actually need to understand it. Talking about death with your child is important, and after listening to today’s episode, you’ll feel ready to start that conversation.
 
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It’s Not Always About Limit Setting: How to Give Your Child Independence & Influence (& Why You Should!)

We talk a lot about setting boundaries with kids – and this is for good reason! Boundaries make kids feel safe, and it’s important that we show up as the sturdy leaders our kids need us to be. But sometimes our limits are less about safety and more about our own personal preference, which introduces some “gray area” into the equation of when to set a boundary with a child.
 
In today’s episode, I talk about how, while boundaries are super important in parenting, it’s also equally important that our kids feel like they have a voice. Our kids need to be able to express their needs and wants, share their opinions, and sometimes have influence in the parent-child relationship, and in today’s episode, I share ways to do this while still maintaining safety and sturdy leadership.
 
Here’s the thing: We don’t want our kids to grow up feeling like they always have to cave to what someone else wants. We don’t want them to feel like they have to do something just because someone else tells them to do it. We want our kids to know they have the right to take up space, and after today’s episode, you’ll understand what it means to give your child influence in the parent-child relationship without sacrificing safety or wavering in your leadership.
 
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Supporting Kids as They Explore: Finding the Sweet Spot Between “Helicopter Parenting” & Hands-Off Parenting

Your child is climbing up high on a play structure, and you’re feeling nervous. What are you actually supposed to do? Should you be sipping coffee nonchalantly on a park bench nearby, letting whatever happens happen? Or should you be right there next to your child, setting limits around how high she climbs?
 
In this week’s episode, I help you understand the importance of supporting your child as they explore the world around them. I talk about scaffolding their experience to support developing skills, setting up the environment for success, and finding the balance between hovering and completely checking out. 
 
Here’s the thing: Supporting our children as they explore is literally half of what it means to build a secure attachment relationship, so as much as we might want to, we can’t just keep our children right next to us all the time. But after listening to today’s episode, you’ll know how to support your child in safe, healthy, developmentally appropriate exploration.
 
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When Gentle Parenting Isn’t Working: Shift Your Energy & Watch Your Child’s Behavior Change

You’re validating all the feelings. You’re saying all the right things. You’re pretty sure you’re doing everything right … and yet you don’t feel any more connected to your child. In fact, you feel pretty frustrated. And your child’s challenging behavior isn’t changing. What gives?!?
 
In this week’s episode, I dive into one of the most common reasons why gentle / respectful / peaceful / conscious parenting might be falling flat: The energy you’re bringing to the situation doesn’t match the goals you have or the words you’re saying. I give examples of how to shift your energy in these moments so you can shift the dynamic between you and your child. 
 
Here’s the thing: The energy we bring to any given moment in parenting is SO much more important than any strategy, script, or tool. When you can shift your energy to a calmer, more present, more patient vibe, connection just happens – and from there, behavior shifts.
 
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“It’s MINE!”: What To Do When Your Child Won’t Share (& Why You Shouldn’t Force It!)

Sharing is caring … or is it? Most of us grew up thinking that sharing was kindness – and that good kids always share. And now as parents, we wonder: Why isn’t my child sharing? How do I get my child to share? And should I force my child to share if it’s not happening?
 
In this week’s episode, I unpack the topic of kids & sharing: What’s really going on when kids won’t share? Is it normal for kids not to share? And how should parents respond when kids won’t share? I share the perspective shift required to respond effectively in these moments – and why I don’t recommend forcing kids to share.
 
Here’s the thing: Understanding what’s really happening when your child won’t share is key to being able to respond in a way that’s helpful and builds connection and resilience. And after listening to today’s episode, you’ll be able to do exactly that!
 
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“Why Do I Lose It When My Child Won’t Listen?!”: Making Sense of & Working Through Parenting Triggers

Parenting is legit the hardest job we’ll ever do. Parenting differently than how we were parented is especially hard because we’re being asked to give what we weren’t given. As we do this, our kids trigger our own past hurts & unmet needs … and the next thing we know, we’re losing it in an angry spiral.
 
In this week’s episode, I help demystify parenting triggers – how they develop, why they’re so hard, and what we can do to begin to shift how we show up in these really hard moments. I use the example of getting triggered by “defiant” & “disrespectful” behavior, but you can apply these ideas to any triggers you experience in your own parenting.
 
Here’s the thing: We get triggered by our kids because we’re choosing to break unhelpful generational cycles. And that’s amazing! But in doing so, we need to heal, too, and that’s not always easy. After listening to today’s episode, you’ll know the next steps to take to begin that healing process and show up differently in your hardest parenting moments.
 
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“Why Is My Child So Defiant!?”: What’s Really Going On (& Why Labeling Children Isn’t Helpful)

If you spend just a minute Googling, you’ll see hundreds of results on how to deal with a "defiant” child. By “defiant”, we typically mean a child who’s purposefully digging her heels in & outright refusing to comply. We think of this child as difficult and problematic, and most of the Google results suggest punishment as a remedy.
 
In this week’s episode, I offer a different perspective. I don’t believe in calling kids defiant; I think doing so puts us in a mindset where we can’t parent effectively. I share why I think this term is harmful – to our kids and to us as parents – and why labels in general aren’t helpful in parenting.
 
Here’s the thing: If our ultimate goal is to raise resilient kids and to parent in a way that genuinely feels good, then we need to pay attention to the language we use. We need to think & talk about our kids in a way that prioritizes connection and holds onto a sense of their inherent goodness, even in the most difficult moments. 
 
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The Truth About Kids & Lying: Why Kids Really Lie (& What Parents Should Do About It!)

Parents often feel frustrated, confused, and angry when kids tell lies. For most of us, this was a hard line for our parents; we were punished or made to feel like we were bad. And now as parents, we wonder: Why is my child lying? And how am I supposed to respond?!?
 
In this week’s episode, I unpack the topic of kids & lying: Why do children lie? Is it normal for kids to tell lies? And how should parents respond when kids lie? I share why lying is actually a good thing and 6 common reasons lying happens. I also share exactly how to respond in each situation.
 
Here’s the thing: Understanding what’s really happening when your child tells a lie is key to being able to respond in a way that’s helpful and builds connection and resilience. And after listening to today’s episode, you’ll be able to do exactly that!
 
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