Raised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive Child

“Why Do I Lose It When My Child Won’t Listen?!”: Making Sense of & Working Through Parenting Triggers

Parenting is legit the hardest job we’ll ever do. Parenting differently than how we were parented is especially hard because we’re being asked to give what we weren’t given. As we do this, our kids trigger our own past hurts & unmet needs … and the next thing we know, we’re losing it in an angry spiral.
 
In this week’s episode, I help demystify parenting triggers – how they develop, why they’re so hard, and what we can do to begin to shift how we show up in these really hard moments. I use the example of getting triggered by “defiant” & “disrespectful” behavior, but you can apply these ideas to any triggers you experience in your own parenting.
 
Here’s the thing: We get triggered by our kids because we’re choosing to break unhelpful generational cycles. And that’s amazing! But in doing so, we need to heal, too, and that’s not always easy. After listening to today’s episode, you’ll know the next steps to take to begin that healing process and show up differently in your hardest parenting moments.
 
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“Why Is My Child So Defiant!?”: What’s Really Going On (& Why Labeling Children Isn’t Helpful)

If you spend just a minute Googling, you’ll see hundreds of results on how to deal with a "defiant” child. By “defiant”, we typically mean a child who’s purposefully digging her heels in & outright refusing to comply. We think of this child as difficult and problematic, and most of the Google results suggest punishment as a remedy.
 
In this week’s episode, I offer a different perspective. I don’t believe in calling kids defiant; I think doing so puts us in a mindset where we can’t parent effectively. I share why I think this term is harmful – to our kids and to us as parents – and why labels in general aren’t helpful in parenting.
 
Here’s the thing: If our ultimate goal is to raise resilient kids and to parent in a way that genuinely feels good, then we need to pay attention to the language we use. We need to think & talk about our kids in a way that prioritizes connection and holds onto a sense of their inherent goodness, even in the most difficult moments. 
 
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The Truth About Kids & Lying: Why Kids Really Lie (& What Parents Should Do About It!)

Parents often feel frustrated, confused, and angry when kids tell lies. For most of us, this was a hard line for our parents; we were punished or made to feel like we were bad. And now as parents, we wonder: Why is my child lying? And how am I supposed to respond?!?
 
In this week’s episode, I unpack the topic of kids & lying: Why do children lie? Is it normal for kids to tell lies? And how should parents respond when kids lie? I share why lying is actually a good thing and 6 common reasons lying happens. I also share exactly how to respond in each situation.
 
Here’s the thing: Understanding what’s really happening when your child tells a lie is key to being able to respond in a way that’s helpful and builds connection and resilience. And after listening to today’s episode, you’ll be able to do exactly that!
 
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How to Deal With After School Meltdowns: Why Children Have Meltdowns After School & What Parents Can Do to Help

Your child is so excited (and maybe also a little nervous!) to go to school; you send them off, and you can’t wait to hear all about their day when they get off the school bus. But come 3pm, instead of being greeted with hugs & stories about your child’s day, you get a grumpy attitude and a meltdown when you arrive back home. What gives?!? 
 
In this week’s episode, I unpack the dreaded after-school meltdown and give you a step-by-step plan to support your child in the hours that follow their school day. I reveal why children tend to have meltdowns after school, what we can do to help, and why these meltdowns are so, so normal.
 
Here’s the thing: School requires a lot of our kids; they have to follow rules, inhibit impulses, learn new things, and navigate new & unfamiliar situations (especially at the beginning of a new school year!). It’s stressful, and children need to release this stress once they’re reunited with their safe attachment figures. Once we understand what’s really happening when our kids have meltdowns after school, we can respond in a way that wires our kids for resilience & healthy emotion regulation!
 
Want MORE support around meltdowns? Join me for a live, virtual workshop on Monday August 29th at 1pm EDT! Grab your ticket here: https://www.raisedresilient.com/learn
 
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What Should I Do When My Child is Having a Meltdown? 3 Pieces of Bad Advice (& What to do Instead!)

Navigating children’s meltdowns is one of the most challenging parts of parenting. It can be so hard to know how to respond when a child is screaming, throwing toys, hitting, kicking, crying, and unable to access logical reasoning. And because meltdowns are so challenging, there’s no shortage of advice on how to handle them … but not all of this advice is good! 
 
In this week’s episode, I share 3 pieces of bad advice most of us have probably gotten when it comes to navigating children’s meltdowns. I share why these ideas are bad advice and what we can do instead.
 
Here’s the thing: Meltdowns are a normal, healthy part of childhood; all kids have them, and that’s a good thing! And when you know how to respond to your child’s meltdowns, you can feel confident and calm instead of overwhelmed and lost in these tough parenting moments. 
 
Want MORE support around meltdowns? Join me for a live, virtual workshop on Monday August 29th at 1pm EDT! Grab your ticket here: https://www.raisedresilient.com/learn
 
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Are Meltdowns Normal? 4 Myths About Your Child’s Meltdowns (& the Truth Behind Them!)

Navigating children’s meltdowns is one of the hardest parts of parenting. We often wonder: Is it normal for my child to have meltdowns? Why is my child having a meltdown? What in the world am I supposed to do during my child’s meltdowns? And why is it so hard to stay calm during my child’s meltdowns?
 
In this week’s episode, I answer all of these questions by debunking 4 common myths about children’s meltdowns. I also talk about the difference between tantrums and meltdowns and how one might lead to the other … and why it’s important that children have both.
 
Here’s the thing: It’s so, so normal for kids to have moments of complete dysregution, sensory overload, & emotional overwhelm – which is what meltdowns really are. After today’s episode, you’ll know why meltdowns happen and why ideas like “meltdowns are bad behavior” or “meltdowns need to be stopped” are myths!
 
Want MORE support around meltdowns? Join me for a live, virtual workshop on *Monday August 29th at 1pm EDT! Grab your ticket here: https://www.raisedresilient.com/learn
(* Please note the date change from the 27th to 29th of August for the workshop!)
 
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When Your Child “Only Wants Mommy!”: Navigating Parental Preference with Confidence

Parental preference is really challenging; it’s so hard when your child only wants mommy or only wants daddy. Either you can’t get a break because your child seems to need you constantly, or you feel rejected because your child seems to want nothing to do with you. 
 
In this week’s episode, I answer a listener who asks: Why does my toddler only want Mommy? And how should we respond? I dive into why kids go through phases of preferring only one parent, what it means (hint: it’s not what you might think!), and how to handle these tough moments and the difficult feelings that can arise as a result. 
 
Here’s the thing: It’s so, so normal for kids to go through phases where they prefer one parent over the other – and how parents respond can mean the difference between entrenching this pattern … or moving through it! After today’s episode, you’ll know exactly how to respond in these moments to strengthen your child’s relationship with both parents.
 
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The Power of Storytelling: A Tool to Use When Your Child Gets Hurt (& in Other Stressful Moments)

One of your most important jobs as a parent is helping your child make sense of the world around them; children are born knowing nothing about the world that surrounds them, and we slowly help them understand what’s happening and where they fit.
 
In this week’s episode, I share why storytelling is SO powerful and how to use it to support your child’s healthy development & deepen the attachment relationship. 
 
Here’s the thing: Storytelling is one of the most powerful tools we have as parents to help our kids make sense of things that are difficult, scary, confusing, or just new for our kids. And it’s so simple & easy to do! And after listening to this week’s episode, you’ll be ready to use this tool with your child, too!
 
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Making Sense of “Clingy” Behaviors: What’s Really Going On When Your Child Won’t Leave Your Side

Sometimes our kids go through phases – days, weeks, or even months – where they seem to need to be near us constantly. This can be challenging for us as parents; it’s hard to show up the way we want to when we’re struggling to get our own needs met because we’re constantly tending to our kids.
 
In this week’s episode, I unpack what’s really happening in these difficult seasons – including why our kids stay close, common reasons our kids need us more than usual, and what children are really seeking when they won’t leave our side.
 
Here’s the thing: As parents, we’re both the secure base from which our children explore the world and the safe haven to which they return when they need to feel safe, protected, and connected. When we understand what’s truly happening in “clingy” moments, we can show up as the safe haven our children really need.
 
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What to Do When Your Child Interrupts: Why it Happens & How to Respond

You sit down to eat dinner after a long, exhausting day. You’re ready to enjoy your meal and chat with your partner … when your child interrupts with something they have to say right now. And then a few minutes later, your partner is telling a story … when your child interrupts again. 
 
In this week’s episode, I answer a listener who asks: Why do kids interrupt? And how should parents respond? I dive into what’s often happening when kids interrupt, how to handle these tough moments, and a trick that’s helped my own kids navigate the need to connect with us while we’re involved in other conversations. 
 
Here’s the thing: Our kids need to feel included and know that they can access us when they need us, even when we’re talking to someone else. When we can meet those needs, kids are way less likely to interrupt and will be increasingly able to engage in conversation with us!
 
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